It’s easy to feel uncertain about your next steps when your partner is unexpectedly pregnant. As a guy, you may feel isolated from the situation or unsure where you can discuss your feelings about this pregnancy.

Soundview is here for you, providing access to a variety of free and confidential services. You always have a place here.

What is your role?

You likely felt a great deal of responsibility when learning your partner is pregnant. There’s much to consider, and while you weren’t planning to become pregnant, you may feel like it’s your job to find a solution.

It’s crucial to maintain an open dialogue with your partner and remember that she’s the one who is pregnant. Establishing how you’ll support her moving forward is a key step because it demonstrates that you’re in her corner and listening to her concerns.

Being honest about your feelings is important but remember that this is a sensitive time for you both. Emotions may be running high, and if needed, take some time to process the situation before having a conversation about the next steps.

If your partner is open to it, you can research pregnancy options together. Although the decision is ultimately hers, your input and opinions are important to share. Understanding the support available if she chooses parenting or adoption can help you realize you’re more capable than you thought.

As you navigate the decision-making process, remember to take time for yourself and monitor your mental health. This can be stressful, and having friends and family in your corner will make all the difference.

We’re here for you, too

Soundview offers coaching services for men through our Next Step 4 Men Programs. Our male advocates will help you process your feelings about this pregnancy as you and your partner move forward. If you choose parenting, we also offer fatherhood education so you can be an involved, engaging parent to your child.

Things can feel uncertain right now, but you aren’t alone. Schedule a no-cost and confidential appointment to learn more.